The verse they generally appeal to is Proverbs , which says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” However, these generalized calls to guard your heart in the midst of dating fall short in three ways: How do you guard your heart?
If you are supposed to guard your heart in dating, how do you do it?
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When you read most Christian dating books, one of the key pieces of counsel they provide is to “guard your heart.” They establish that guarding your heart is an essential component of correctly pursuing any dating relationship.
There is only one other verse in the Bible that uses the phrase “guard your heart.” That verse gives us the answer to the question of how to guard your heart in life and, particularly, in dating.
Am I saying that building boundaries into a relationship in order to guard your heart is wrong? What I am saying is that these boundaries should flow from your relationship with God.In other words, the key to guarding your heart is to talk to God about the relationship before you talk to the other person about the relationship. First, hearts become unguarded when you move too fast in the relationship–becoming too vulnerable too quickly.You must lay a foundation of friendship before building a house of intimacy.Second, hearts become unguarded when you are not seeking God’s desires for the relationship.Instead of depending on your own understanding and priorities for the relationship, you must seek God’s heart.