Dating a former student
Sometimes you have the odd case when a student misconstrues the intentions of a loving teacher. In this case, the teacher is not to blame but it is the student who needs counseling.
Students are constantly sending messages in the direction of the teacher, from their unconscious behaviour, in their way of taking up work of the class, and in their explicit coomunications.
Some also argue that teacher-student romances are unethical because it involves bringing something alien namely love and passion, to the scene of education, thus distracting from and posing as an impediment to educational goals.
Education is pursued for a love for knowledge and a thirst for discovery. A teacher is a facilitator as a student learns to react to and love different things in the world.
There is no question of a consensual relationship between a teacher and a student. It exploits the emotional vulnerability of the student and vitiates the atmosphere of the class.
Such a romantic dalliance has adverse effects on classroom dynamics.
High school teachers who sleep with their students are likely to be called "slimy" or "irresponsible" rather than sick or evil.
College teachers who have affairs with undergraduate students are likely to be called unprofessional or careless and graduate schools dismiss such affairs as college gossip.
The teacher is guiding the child on the way to a moral and virtuous life.
Experts say that teachers should not respond to all these signals.
There is nothing wrong in having a close, friendly, healthy relationship with your teacher. The teacher will risk his reputation and even face legal charges and be prosecuted. Nabokov’s makes for a good story but does not make for a happy life in reality.
Ancient civilizations like India attach great importance to the student-teacher relationship, which has been traditionally idolized.
The teacher has been assigned a position of eminence next only to God and the student was always encouraged to stay with the teacher throughout the period of his education.