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It made me question my own place in the world."We all felt we were near the bottom of a sexual hierarchy which operates invisibly."He says this racism is still there, just on a different platform.It's morphed."There's an element of cruelty which has re-emerged which was probably there in the age of the personal ads."For many gay guys, especially in an image-conscious city like Sydney, it's hard not to feel the pressure of being like the hypermasculine men at the gym, walking around, shaking bottles of protein supplements."Asians have always been regarded as feminine, weaker," says Eric Koh, who has Chinese-Malaysian heritage.Eric gets the same, and calls out his partners if it does come up."You sleep with someone and they say, ' You're my first Asian and that was hot'. Because I'm Asian you're expecting that it wasn't going to be hot? He's half Filipino, half Anglo."It's affected my self-confidence, my self-esteem. Matt used to be drawn into tense debates with other app users.Now he blocks or ignores the ones he doesn't like and focuses on the good things in his life."Get yourself away from that to realign yourself with who you are as a person.I wore big, thick black glasses."For LGBT international students, moving to Australia from a country with an oppressive regime and a conservative approach to sexuality can be a freeing experience but it doesn't come without its challenges.
"Not into Asians", or the absurdly comical "No rice"."It's a question Asian Australian filmmaker Tony Ayres highlighted 20 years ago in his documentary China Dolls, during an era when guys used to hook up through published personals ads.As a teenager, I remember watching China Dolls on late night television. Mostly you're an avatar, reduced to race, height, weight and a sexual position.You're a thumbnail photo in a game that can be as crude as it is brutal on your self-esteem, if you let it.